I cried the other day, and my wife laughed at me as the tears rolled down my face.
Of course, I was waking up from a colonoscopy and crying about the fact that McDonald’s doesn’t serve Big Macs at 9:30am.
Huh, interesting that Australian McDonald’s has you beat in this regard. We have an “all day menu” where you can get big Mac, cheeseburger and chicken burger any time of day, and an “extended breakfast” menu where you can get Bacon & Egg McMuffin, Sausage & Egg McMuffin, Chicken McMuffin and Sausage McMuffin any time of day.
i’ve lived in australia my whole life and i’ve never heard of “australian mcdonalds”
thats maccas, mate
/s im just being silly
I was about to say, “you’re thinking about Maccas, mate.”
You can’t get chicken before 11am anywhere where I live. I tried.
Green text, but men’s health is a disaster and this has been me in the past before therapy and meds.
To be fair though I have several lifelong comorbid depression and anxiety disorders that I didn’t get treated until I was 30. No 7 year old should have to be be suicidal.
I wonder how many other men are similar but never get treatment? Too many.
Yeah I know typically we’re all here for a laugh, but I genuinely can’t bring myself to make light of stuff like this.
There are millions of men in the world whose lives would likely be revolutionised if they had someone they felt this secure and safe with.
But our modern society doesn’t reward (and in most cases, actively punishes) emotional vulnerability in men, so instead many of us either lean into toxic masculinity or drown in our depression. Sometimes both.
I’m fortunate enough that I do in fact have someone in my life who I could be this vulnerable with, should I be so inclined, but I also acutely remember the days when this was exactly what I craved in life and thought I would never have, and the suffocating feeling of isolation as a result.
I hope things change.
Emotional vulnerability comes later in a relationship. These people arent failing to get in a relationship due to no emotional vulnerability it’s because they are socially stunted with obscure hobbies and humor that’s incredibly jarring to most people.
I didn’t know until I was 28. I’m on a wait-list for ADHD assessment now
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Uh oh I’m on citalopram. I was in therapy. I was successfully discharged. Do you have any links to research for the prefrontal cortex stuff
Yeah I was fwb with a guy for a couple of years and it was very clear that one of the benefits he enjoyed most was using me as an unpaid therapist.
I’m not saying this to complain, I’m saying that a lot of men only seem to be comfortable talking about emotions with someone they’re having sex with.
Yeah I was fwb with a guy for a couple of years and it was very clear that one of the benefits he enjoyed most was using me as an unpaid therapist.
FRIENDS with benefits
JFC, what do you say when the friends that don’t bang you come to with emotional problems, laugh in their face?
Wholesome
Fake: Anon is in a loving relationship. Gay: Anon never states that they are a woman.
Anon never stated that they were female…
Obviously fake and gay as fuck.
However, there’s a lot of men that have never felt safe enough to do that with anyone. As we need it, badly, sometimes.
I cried the first time a gf was nice to me regularly.
I had some fucked up relationships. I’m doing good now though.
Feeling lonely sucks, but man, whenever I’m listening to some people talk about past relationships they’ve been in, I end up feeling happy it hasn’t happened yet.
I blame my parents. They have such an amazing mutually respectful, supportive and loving marriage that it has set an impossible standard for me to realize.
I wish media depicted more healthy relationships.
Half of people don’t seem to even have an idea of what mundane everyday loving behaviour actually looks like. And the other half does know, but fetishise unhealthy bullshit. (TBH I do too, but I want to engage in it playfully, not full on I will now proceed to straight up destroy you emotionally that I’ve run into with some people. )
Who is y’all datin
Plenty of toxic women out there.
As a level 1 autistic man, I’m a magnet for toxic women. It’s like they hunt for guys like me. It takes me a really long time around a woman before I drop my guard.
Is level 1 high or low?
It’s right next to level 2.
This helped everyone. Thank you.
Honestly, it’s the only thing I miss as middle aged single dad not dating. Someone to rub my hair while I cry in their lap. Nobody’s taken care of me in decades. I’ve got a lot to cry about. Kinda sucks. Anyway… Back to manning up and working to exhaustion another few decades.
and gay as fuck.
What why? And you have something against gay?
Its a green text, where everything is fake, as gay as can be, and we’re all fags
It would be very nice if we could not copy literal 4chan behavior here though, not even ironically.
It’s a fucking green text community, you know where the unsubscribe button is
Don’t participate in the community based around 4chan if you don’t want 4chan-like content
I lost a partner doing that. Like flipping a switch, any interest in me was gone. Was struggling with depression, we knew eachother for a very long time, even dated in the past. Oh well.
Fucking same, had just lost a mother figure my grand mother who I grow up with, never dealt with loss and had other things come into my life that exacerbated the situation. Anyway my ex split with me.
Sucked as I was there throughout her losses. Silver lining she was an enabler who had me drinking more, not working out. and now I am healthier inside and out, taken on therapy which has allowed me to face my demons.
Quote from my ex: “I like you more when you drank.”
My exwife of 18 years dumped me when I went into a period of depression, fueled by the death of my father and a business failure. As soon as I ceased to be the rock, I became value less.
I had been there for her for two serious bouts of depression.
I have heard of similar things from friends. Men are not allowed to show weakness. Remember men were not supposed to cry until recently.
It’s happened to me twice. Shit sucks. I guess you could say if they lose interest for crying in front of them they’re not good for you but I don’t exactly have women lining up to date me. If I’d known ahead of time I’d have kept my emotions to myself.
Patriarchy seeps into women too
I wouldn’t call it that. In the end, you aren’t responsible for what you like or dislike. And once you find someones “ick” that you can’t deal with, it’s hard to get over it. I have a bunch of those - racism, unwilingness to learn, regular smoking. Theirs was just “man crying”. Also, there is crying and then there is holding in emotions and exploding. Sadly, I’m guilty of the latter. I don’t really blame them, rather I feel disappointed more than anything.
Having an ick for a loved one opening up to you is a red line for me. Not really justifiable by personal preferenze, but i understand your reasoning
Yeah patriarchy is a system and it poisons us all. Never stop being open to being vulnerable. It’s just unfortunate that some view it as weakness.
Tons of southern women would literally lose their entire identity if their patriarchy disappeared tomorrow
Luckily they can build a better one
I don’t think it’s still called a patriarchy if they build it
I meant an identity
Handmaids are totally feminist
This is why you should always ugly cry on the first date, to establish whether they’re gf material.
Gotta set the tone, boys! Let’s set the tone in here, now!
I never really connected past a surface level relationship, the blame is on me, I had both men and women who took interest in me but I never followed it up with interest in them, neither did I attempt to interact with them
I probably should’ve, taken a day and went to a small restaurant to talk and chill, would’ve been very possible and easy too. Istanbul has great metro tram and bus routes.
Honestly, if you’re in a similar situation as I am, just give it a shot
İnvite a friend over to eat at a fast food place, if you’re talking to a person of your interest then take a small risk and try to put events together with them
Put color into your life, try to live less safe be more risky, even if you fuck something up so bad as to cause a break in a relationship it would only be something you would regret for a year rather than a lifetime
Wall of text so that I give myself a life lesson
On another note, maybe this is why it’s good to have a journal and write about stuff.
TL:DR take risks, break off from single tone life, make closer bonds with small strides even with risk involved
I hope the replies to this were just as comforting and wholesome as the post itself.
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I have bad news for you man
Fake and gay
How do you know anon is a girl?
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Wait, woman on 4chan? Impossible.
