• Like the wind...@sh.itjust.works
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    12 hours ago

    Yeah or that it was extremely complicated, and that no one in my life would respect my new name. Which, the latter, I was right about. I cut all ties I had (except family since I’m stuck with them currently) before changing my name, and eventually I will cut ties with family and receive mail in my name.

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      7 hours ago

      Out of curiosity, is it a gender change name or just a same gender name change? Still can’t figure out why someone wouldn’t respect either.

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        6 hours ago

        I didn’t change my gender, only the name. Many people are so transphobic that a cis person changing their name is just as “bad” as transitioning, and the rest think a cis person’s life is perfect so they only change their name for attention and to be oppressed. I changed my name because it was ugly and othering and it only reminds me of childhood. I legitimately felt like I was stuck in someone else’s body and could never get out and be myself.

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          6 hours ago

          I really can’t see why people would oppose either, but had a gut feeling that trans changing their name get more flack for the gender change than the name, so for you to mention name specifically it had to be same gendered.

          I hope you’re happy with your new name, and that it helped you feel like yourself.