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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • Hmm maybe that means it yields some better results, flavour and texture-wise? I’ve only ever used coconut oil as a cosmetic, and the only research I’ve done is health-based. As a general rule of thumb though, saturated fats are worse for you than non-saturated ones, and the less saturated a fat is, the lower the temperature where it goes from liquid to solid. Ie, butter melts at a higher temperature than coconut oil, so it’s more saturated. Coconut oil melts at a higher temperature than canola (canola goes solid way below the freezing temper of water), so it’s more saturated.









  • ‘Privileged’ isn’t something that you either are or aren’t, and it’s not productive to blanket state some are privileged and some aren’t.

    Example: I’m queer and white. I have white privilege, but some people have straight privilege over me.

    Every human suffers. Some people who objectively have more privilege than most will read something like this and think they can’t be part of ‘the privileged’ because they’ve suffered or they’ve had to work for things others were just handed, so therefore, they’re ‘the non-privileged’, and if they can handle it, the other non-privileged can, too.

    Take, for example, many non-college-educated people in their 50s or 60s who managed to safe up for a house through hard work, and now think the young or immigrants are lazy because ‘if I managed it through hard work, why can’t they?’

    The way the last comment frames it as ‘the privileged’ precisely plays into the problem it’s addressing.



  • Yeah I’ve heard before that in some place, adhd was just a label slapped on unruly kids in some places. That’s certainly part of where the stigma comes from and why some parents are so against their child getting diagnosed. But adhd is a genuine issue, and two wrongs (misdiagnoses and refusal to diagnose those who actually have it) don’t make a right.

    I don’t know you, but the way you’re wondering about it seems like a sign you’re a good parent. Especially in combination with the knowledge of what your parents did wrong (whether or not they meant to).



  • That last thing you said is SO spot on. If you don’t already pretty much know that you have adhd (or other types of neurodivergence that you can somewhat mask), there’s no way anyone else will ever consider it. Doctors and teachers aren’t usually trained for it, and even if they are, parents are likely to reject the possibility because of the stigma. Plus, adult adhd hasn’t been recognized for all that long, so plenty of doctors that don’t keep up with science after they graduate just insist that it’s not a thing.

    You basically have to specifically know that you have adhd and that you want treatment, and then you can start to look for professionals who specifically diagnose treat adult adhd. They’re few and far between pretty much everywhere. If you’re in a place where you need a referral, good luck also convincing your GP (I never told mine I needed the referral for adhd, I let him assume it’s depression again. Though my psych said I don’t HAVE to have a referral, it’ll just be easier for them, insurance-paperwork wise).


  • Im so angry and sad for you friend. You’ve been robbed of so much more than me. I’m seriously so lucky that I get paid well, so I can live off savings if I lose a job again. I also live in a room that costs waaay less than market because I’ve got one of the few good landladies. I might even still finish my masters, though the amount of time it took me won’t look good on a CV.

    Taking adhd seriously as a medical professional and actually helping those who have it genuinely saves lives. It’s outrageous that it took so long for that to happen to you. I admire your mindset, that you’re ready to now live the life you could’ve always lived. Rooting for you.



  • My psychologist did say that most people with untreated adhd have depression!

    My experience on meds is pretty similar. Holy shit is it nice when it’s quiet in your head. I get so fucking much done. And I can rest more productively, I actually have some energy left over at the end of the day to exercise, read or draw. I knew I was exhausted all the time, but I never knew how much easier it could be if you don’t use up so much energy for every tiny task.