I swear I’m not Jessica

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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • Nah. Even if it’s hetero, it’s probably not straight. Straightness is similar to whiteness; simply a term to say “you’re normal and deserving of respect.” It’s a normal word, not simply a descriptive one.

    Dating a nonbinary person as a binary person is definitionally hetero, but hard to call straight. An agender person and a bigender person would totally be het, but totally not be straight. If it’s not a relationship between 2 monogamous, cishet people assigned opposite sexes at birth, it’s weird and unnatural.

    Bigots can literally gatekeep straightness from a cishet woman dating a cisbi man. It’s like a tainting of her for being with a queer person, even if neither she nor the relationship is queer. It doesn’t matter if they’re monogamous for life; it’s one drop of queerness poisoning their ability to be normal. They’d need to hide his true orientation.





  • Hey! We do good work with our popularity <3

    Good work?

    A ton of similar communities on sites like reddit aren’t so supportive. Like many mentally ill communities, they feed off of their worst instincts instead of their best. That may be rewarding, but it also convinces people that they can continue being horrible to themselves.

    I’m really proud of everyone here for not wallowing in our self hatred. I want us to be open about our struggles and insecurities, but I also hope we can offer a helping hand to each other as well. We can’t be perfect, but we can try our best to be good.

    I can’t and won’t force people to “get help,” because I know it doesn’t work like that. The only person who can save oneself is oneself. Our life is our responsibility, not just because that’s how it should be, but because that’s how it truly works. We can only get what we give at most, so I want to make sure people get a fair exchange while they’re here.







  • I personally resolve the problem by throwing out the concept of fault and blame. The cause of the bad incident is not being conscientious enough, so we ought to be conscientious and learn what to be conscientious about. It doesn’t matter who’s fault it is, only that we work to minimize such risk.

    As we learn of the dangers in life, we should take them into consideration as best we can. We should set aside time and plan for mitigation measures like putting tools away.

    Unfortunately for us, efficiency incentivizes us to not do this. If you aren’t immoral and reckless, you get supplanted by people that are. We need then need to set aside more of our time to work against those who endanger lives. If this isn’t done, the world reverts to a state of nature with no social contract, formal or otherwise.