The thing with Facebook that made it special might also have been who was there. It was and for some people maybe still is a mass adopted platform with your whole extended community within reach. It didn’t have polls or reactions for most of the time I used it; that’s not what made it compelling.

There are a ton of existing fediverse platforms, includ8ng some that aim to be more facebook-type and your energy is probably more valuable if you contribute to one of those rather than striking out on your own.

I think Lemmy is in many ways at the opposite end from Facebook because it is more of a hive mind whereas Facebook was highly individualized. Like I don’t think you can be friends or even follow another account on lemmy?. That’s like the most important Facebook relationship. Even mastodon would be closer I think.

If you want to recreate Facebook you’ll need to ask the people you valued the most what it would take for them to use a novel open source platform.