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Cake day: March 18th, 2024

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  • The number of times I’ve been “accused” of being gay just because I don’t have a problem with homo couples. Sometime in the 200Xs I stopped correcting people and went with “so what if I am gay” which added a real satisfying record scratch moment to arguments.

    Let them believe I’m gay if they want, it’s none of their fucking business, and they should be aware there are queer folk in stealth mode literally in every aspect of their lives.


  • Yeah nothing to be proud of but I can’t discount how powerful this one is, now that I’m “woke” to it.

    Like I have worked for people for years and just not known they were racist or sexist, only for them to let it slip. And then you see behind the mask.

    Realising why there are no people of colour in my office, or women with any kind of power. Realising I would not have this job if I was not a white man.


  • Social stuff is hard for many people. I’d wager most people are not even consciously aware of social status, social transactions, etc. It’s not something that is really taught, so it’s no surprise when someone is blind to it.

    But if you ever feel bad because of what someone said or did, it’s possible you’re subconsciously reacting to a threat to your status (import and safety within a group).

    Why do you say you’re damaged?