Please get out of this situation. You will easily find a much better partner once you get over this relationship. There are a lot of amazing women out there who would treat you with respect. Stop supporting someone who doesn’t love you and find someone who actually wants to share a life. Don’t tell people you supported her for so long either, at least not right away, you might come off as someone a predator can easily take advantage of. I hope I’m not offending you, but you posting this is a cry for help because you know how fucked up it is but are way too close and probably in a little bit of denial. It really fucking sucks but the only way to be happy is to end this relationship.

A roommate that pays for healthcare and everything else