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Cake day: September 5th, 2024

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  • it is really concerning to see most commenters taking the claim that autistic people are more likely to commit crime at face value, not only doing so without any data to back it up, but also unaware (or willfully ignorant) that the data says otherwise: autistic people are more likely to be victims of violent crime than allistic people. this is a dangerous narrative fueled by preexisting hatred of neurodivergent people that only serves to further marginalize us.

    this kind of narrative is unfortunately the expected anywhere else, but seeing it play out in a forum specifically about autism is particularly upsetting. if you’re neurotypical and you’re spreading this here, kindly go fuck yourself (also go look for actual data, not biased anecdotes by sensationalist media); if you’re autistic, though, please please please do not believe this shit, you are the vulnerable side of autism, not the people around you.





  • beleza pura@lemmy.eco.brtoAuDHD@lemmy.worldVent
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    5 days ago

    careful! unless i’m absolutely confident i can trust my employer, i wouldn’t trust completely opening up to them. maybe i’d talk to coworkers i trust before i make a decision to open up, and even then, i would just deliver enough information to make them feel some sympathy and maybe take it easier with me


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    5 days ago

    first of all, don’t assume the worst right away. you got drunk, you got annoying, it happens even to neurotypicals. you might get scolded, you might get a formal warning, you might even hear nothing at all. you might of course be fired, but don’t assume that’s the only and most certain possibility right away

    when you’re less freaked out about being fired, think about how you’re going to deal with social events from now on. assume you’re not among friends when you’re around coworkers and start figuring out the bare minimum you need to do to make them (and perhaps most importantly, your bosses/superiors) feel like you were present and socialized. once you feel your job is complete, leave immediately. during normal workdays, interact as little as possible with coworkers but again measure if you need to interact a little to keep your boss happy.

    it’s not easy and it’s still gonna drain you, but remember that you don’t need to appear like your average neurotypical coworker. do the bare minimum, then leave

    if possible, try to spend time with or even just open up to people you care about and trust. i know it doesn’t come easy to us, but community is one of the most important things for anyone’s mental health

    here’s hoping you keep your job tomorrow and are able to keep your shit together regardless of the result. sending lots of hugs 🫂